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This morning I kissed my husband good-bye, shut the door behind him, and made a beeline for the brownies. Will I ever grow out of sneaking sweets? I'm pretty sure the answer is no. 2
An unexpected side effect of dressing more modestly is that I am now super-aware of other women's cleavage. Of course it's always something I've noticed, but now I am just so cognizant of it that it makes me really uncomfortable. (I wonder if that's a taste of what guys feel like?) I try to look anywhere but at the woman's chest, and I often feel a little bit embarrassed for her. I totally did not expect that.3
I'm going back to Houston next week to give a talk in my department. Really, the talk is just a convenient excuse to fly down there and actually talk to my committee members. My adviser in particular is so hard to get a hold of and never replies by email, and the best way to deal with her is to sit her down face to face. That's difficult to do when you're working 1500 miles away.4
On the upside, I'm so excited to get to see all my friends when I'll be there! I miss having girlfriends.5
I get back next Saturday, and on Sunday we're getting the dog - a 2 year old beagle named Cricket! We're really excited!6
We're now taking bets on who will be the Alpha Dog in our household. My husband the scientist is certain that with his "iron will" he will be. I counter that, as the one home all day with the dog, I will clearly be in charge. (After all, I'm the one who's put my foot down about the dog not sleeping in our bedroom or begging during dinner.) My FIL just laughs and reminds us not to expect him to take the dog out. 7
Have I mentioned that I've never had an indoor dog? Do you all have any tips or advice for us as new pet owners? Please?
#2 - yup, I'm with you. Matter of fact, I always notice when women have their skirts too short, too. It's just one of those things...once you're aware...you're AWARE.
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#1 I still sneak mine, but I feel vaguely cheated when someone else sneaks treats.
ReplyDeletere #2 - ohmigosh, me too!! i am SO GLAD i'm not the only one, i thought i was some kind of weirdo.
ReplyDeleteand ditto to michelle, on the not just low cut top part.
it just makes me so uncomfortable - i'm pretty good about dismissing it from my mind so that i don't get judgey about it, but i still hate that i notice that.
lol and i often point it out to my husband who is usually oblivious - what does that say about me that i notice and he doesn't?
at least i'm not the only weirdo woman :)
As for advice on the dog...they are smart, and actually can learn fairly quickly what is "off-limits" and what is not. Create boundaries early, and give them a space somewhere that is "theirs", and they'll learn to gravitate towards that area the more you enforce it...be it a laudry room, corner in the living room, etc..
ReplyDeleteis the dog crate-trained? crate's are a great way to create boundaries, and to give the dog her own space. Sirius will often be sleeping in his crate in the morning (with the door open), just because he likes it.
ReplyDeleteIf you're going to be home all day with Cricket, she'll probably respond quicker to you. Sirius listens to both of us, but to me a little faster. He knows I mean business. Kind of like a toddler. :)
Have fun in Houston!
From my experience, the body outgrows sweets much sooner than does the heart & mind. :) And btw - you're not "sneaking" anything. If hubby is even half a man, he gets his fair share of "sweets" too.
ReplyDeletethat is too funny with the brownie because I do that as well
ReplyDeletehave fun with all your great friends
With the sneaking sweets...I do it...but so does my husband! I was baking a million cookies for Christmas for presents and every once in a while the cooling rack looking a little less crowded than I last remembered it. I would look into the living room and my husband would be chewing SOMETHING and looking awfully happy to be eating SOMETHING that was so tasty!
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your new doggie! We got our beagle when he was a year and a half and he was fairly well trained. Just be prepared for his big brown eyes to look up at you with a pathetic pleading look when he wants something!
Have fun in Houston!
I only "grew out of sneaking sweets" once I decided I was allowed to have them, so there was/is no sneaking. :-)
ReplyDeleteHave fun with your friends, and good luck with pinning down your advisor!
I still sneak sweets. If you figure out how to grow out of it...let me know :)
ReplyDeleteAs I've entered more into the professional world, I especially notice when women are dressed in poor taste. Poor taste meaning too tight, too short, too low cut...ugh. I want to be taken seriously, not gawked at. Sometimes I just scratch my head when I see how some women are dressed.
I am a sweet sneaker too. I do not understand why I feel compelled to sneak them because my husband just blatantly takes them right in front of me, and at the most innapropriate times. Chocolate truffle for breakfast, anyone? A slice of cake while dinner is being prepared? And yet I still sneak them when he's not looking. I giggled when I read the circumstances of your brownie sneaking this morning. That exact same thing happens about half the mornings around here.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean about the cleavage. For me it goes for VUL, too tight, too short...it's very distracting. Sometimes I think "wow, this must be what it's like for guys" but the truth is my husband notices even less than I do. Weird. He is as in tune to poor taste as I am though. We were just talking over dinner about this grad student he is teaching at work. Married, and she wears sneakers, jeans and a tee shirt with lace cami peeking out. This is in a lab environment where she will regularly interact with doctors. We were wondering why some people have such a hard time dressing to fit their age, state in life, and the place they are hanging out...no ideas.
Good luck with the dog and have fun on your trip!
I guess I don't have to sneak treats; it may take a little of the fun out of it, but sometimes I really enjoy the fact that I'm too old for my mom to take me to task for it! :)
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the dog! My most important piece of advice - GET A KENNEL :). Ours LOVES hers, in fact, she is voluntarily sleeping in it right now (the door is open, that is just where she is choosing to nap). It's her 'safe' place and at night, there is no fighting over whose bed it is. My other piece of advice, is lots of chews and toys, and rewards for squeaking the squeaky toys - teaches the dog how to play with it.
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to see pics!
That's funny about the brownies!
ReplyDeleteRe: #2... years ago when I was first beginning to remake myself, as it were, I brought something similar up in Confession. I remarked that by trying to improve myself I was now overly aware of those shortcomings in everyone else. It dies down over time.
Friend, my dog advice is this...especially at the beginning you can't give in "just this once" to something you don't want to become a habit. Dogs are very black and white and if you accept a behavior once it sends the message that it is an acceptable behavior all the time. She will be so confused when you later scold her for something that in her eyes was ok.
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